The big day
What's your fondest memory of the day?
It went by in a big happy blur. Having my French grandparents there, and seeing all of our friends and family in one spot because they love and support us. There's really nothing like it; it's surreal. I walked down the aisle, saw happy faces from loved ones first, then Scott at the end of the aisle while a song played the words, "you are so good to me." He is truly so good to me. I was sobbing uncontrollably; it was great! It was beautiful.
If you could go back would you change anything?
Not one single thing. Maybe remembering to use my bouquet (and the other flowers we forgot; it's a shame they weren't used, but I didn’t even notice until three days later). I wouldn’t change a thing.
What would you tell another woman getting married tomorrow?
Try not to worry about every little thing. It will all go by very quickly, and beautifully so, and you will be in a hurricane of love, dancing and food. ENJOY! Oh, and, you may worry about all the details, but others don't really care about the details except, maybe, your French grandma! Everyone is focused on themselves and their own experience. So, don't worry about what other people think! There are no rules. Everyone there already loves you as you are. This is a celebration of you and your loved one, and really, nothing else matters.
How has marriage changed your relationship with your partner?
We weren’t living together prior to our marriage, so that was an obvious change. However, we were very much in love, best friends and really enjoyed each other’s presence. That’s still true today.
Overall, our relationship has become a lot stronger, sweeter, more intimate, very vulnerable and goofy, and…at the same time, it’s become more serious! We are constantly together, growing in life and in work, which both come with their own joys and stresses. It’s a constant juggle — constant learning, constant growing and constant process of self-reflection. How can I be a better partner? How can I navigate my own life and also help my partner do the same? How do we grow as individuals, but together? It isn’t always a smooth balance, because life is complex, but thankfully, at the root of it all is love. We really, really love each other. Our commitment to love and grow and be vulnerable together has only deepened that love. It’s been beautiful.